25th Jun 2021
We take a look at ‘listening’. If you have ever had counselling or been in some sort of talking-therapy arrangement. Then you may well have marvelled over just how little your advisor actually said!
In contrast to what you often see on TV programmes as a patient/therapist relationship, where the counsellor asks lots of probing questions and a lot of ‘how do you feel about that’… In reality, a good therapist actively listens and gives the person, time and space to explore their own emotions.
You may consider that you are a good listener… But, very often in a conversation, we can be only half-listening. The other part of us is already getting ready to share a similar experience. Perhaps input a witty anecdote or move on to a new topic? A good listener focuses entirely on what is being said. They are not afraid of the odd pause, while they gather their thoughts before asking a relevant question, getting the friend to further expand on the topic at hand.
This type of active listening is useful in so many areas of life. It makes partners, family members, work colleagues and friends feel heard and valued. It’s not always easy to listen, without feeling the need to guide the conversation. To bring it back to us in some way, or interject opinions. When you give people space to talk, you will find they fully elaborate and get everything off their chest that they need to say.
Of course, some conversations are more light-hearted than others. But you usually have a sixth sense for when someone needs to talk about something more serious, even if they seem to be beating around the bush to some extent. If you find yourself in this situation, then follow these tips for a successful listening conversation:
I had a reading with Teya today. I was blown away by her understanding of my current situation. She made some very positive predictions and advice. I look forward to the outcome. Teya has a lovely warm personality and it radiates in her voice. Towards the end of the reading at my request she brought through some family members who passed over. I found her descriptions and messages spot on! I would love to connect with her again. Many thanks.
PIN : 3691
I would like to share my thoughts and gratitude about the reading I just had with Marcus: He’s excellent! Connected immediately. No padding or filling. Spot on with what he picked up. Empathetic, emotionally intelligent, honest and humble. I was left empowered. Thank you, Marcus, I will call again.
PIN : 9399
I had my first reading with Vanessa today. I was very impressed that she brought my late father through and described him in great detail. Vanessa has a lovely empathetic manner. She picked up in great detail my current situation and described a wonderful outcome to my questions. I was blown away by her understanding of myself as a person! She gave me a tremendous boost to my wellbeing.
PIN : 3900
John is so gifted, absolutely brilliant, the best medium I have ever known! He has assisted me and many others more than he will ever know xxx Thank you.
PIN : 5152
Bryony is an amazing reader. She is a very lovely, friendly and honest reader. All of my readings have been done with insights and guidance. Bryony really wants the best for her clients and has supported me a lot over the last 4 years. I would highly recommend her. She’s the very best and does not ask lots of questions and always picks up on my situation now and in the future. Absolutely amazing lady.
PIN : 2727
Just had a lovely reading with Angel. She is so kind and enthusiastic and willing to provide guidance. I felt that she was naturally gifted at being guided by her spirits.
PIN : 1441
Thank you so much Sandra for assisting me connect with my beloved partner. You gave so much detail around things that only I would have known. You are really gifted and I am very much looking forward to speaking with you again. Love and best wishes to you x.
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Thank you, Ruth, for being so patient and kind on our call. You touched on things I needed to hear and I was so happy to hear from the one person I was seeking guidance from. I will be back. Your gift has opened my eyes up more than you know. Thank you xx
PIN : 2022
Thanks so much to John. I've had a few readings with John over this last year and he has really assisted me keep the faith in a situation that has all worked out as he said it would. His advice and insight was spot on and I can't thank you enough x.
PIN : 5152
Betty was absolutely wonderful. She was spot on with what she told me. She even mentioned a place in the country that I live without me telling her. She is amazing!
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