Date NightWhen you have been with your partner for a long time a fun relationship quiz over a date night dinner can be a great way to reconnect. It is easy to let the hum-drum of everyday life overtake your early dreams and desires for your partnership and life. But equally some of the questions could be used in a fledging relationship to get to know each other better on a deeper level.

Start with some fun questions

If you could have any superpower – what would it be and why? This might shine a light on the things they find hard, people often pick powers that would help them overcome something they find difficult.

Is there another historical period that you would have liked to live in? This can reveal problems with everyday lives, for example technology overload, someone might choose a period where work was more outdoors, or when life was simpler).

Counting Your Blessings

This section will allow you to see your partner as they are now, as opposed to when you met.

Outside of your relationship/children, what are you most grateful for?

Can you describe what would feel like the perfect day to you from beginning to end?

If you could ask one more question of someone that is no longer with us, who would you ask and what would the question be?

In your life do you have any unfulfilled dreams?

Life

These questions can identify the root of past and current anxieties and fears.

If asked to tell your childhood life story in five minutes – how would it go?

Secretly do you think you know how you will pass away?

Relationship

These questions will hopefully remind you of why you came together, and the special bond that you share despite life’s up and downs.

Pick an occasion – such as a wedding/anniversary or first date – what was the most memorable aspect for you?

What three things do you think we have in common?

What qualities made you pick me as your life partner. Are these still a source of joy or now a frustration?

It can be interesting to ponder the questions and answers over the following days, and to even think about what question was hardest to answer and why. Don’t be surprised if your answers to some of the questions (like memorable things at your wedding) differ. The idea is to connect with each other for who you are today, so don’t over-analyse the answers.

 

Adapted from Andrew G. Marshall: Author & Marital Therapist