If a woman wanted to know who her future spouse would be, there were a number of rituals she could carry out:
- On St. Valentine’s Eve she could visit a graveyard at midnight, chanting special charms she knew whilst running around the church twelve times! She should then go to sleep with a sprig of rosemary under her pillow, and the face of her husband-to-be would appear…
- On Valentine’s Day itself a woman should let her eyes gaze to the sky, until she saw a bird or animal flying over, the type of bird would indicate certain things about the union:
Whatever your relationship status, there are ways to enjoy and celebrate the ultimate ‘love’ holiday – Valentines Day!
Receiving hand written correspondence has always been special, but nowadays it is even more so, as we spend so much time engaging via electronic means.
This Valentines Day why not send ‘love letter’s’ to your partner, family and friends by way of expressing what they mean to you all year round, not just during the Valentines period.
Hand written notes, are very personal, you have taken time to choose stationary and a pen to write with. The person gets to see the style of your hand writing. Messages are normally well thought out, but raw and honest – as there is no going back with a delete button. (more…)
Is the Spark Alive and Well in your Relationship?
When you first start a relationship, it is all exciting and the getting to know you phase is full of nerves and feelings of butterflies. But over time as the relationship deepens, you can lose some of the heady feelings of the early days. Hopefully as the flush of romance fades, you are left with a more meaningful partnership based on honesty, trust and mutual interests and life goals. But at the same time the humdrum of real life, can easily dampen the union and so it is good to check in every once and while, to ensure you are not taking things for granted and that you are making an effort to maintain a spark in your relationship. (more…)
Whatever life stage you are at, deciding that you are ready to date is a big step. It is inevitable that you will have some nerves about meeting someone new. If you have been off the dating scene for some time, you are probably wondering if anything has changed since you last did it! All of these feelings are completely normal, but it is great to take a few steps, to calm your nerves, so that you can enjoy dating for the fun experience it should be.
Tips to follow for calmer dating (more…)
Trust is a really important part of any relationship, whether it is of a romantic nature, with a family member, friend or even work colleague.
When that trust has been broken, you will likely feel all manner of emotions from hurt, betrayed to angry and confused. You may even start to look at all of your relationships in a different light, and wonder how you can trust again, especially when it comes to new people in your life.
If you have had your trust broken, then it can be helpful to have some strategies to cope with the situation: (more…)
When you have been with your partner for a long time a fun relationship quiz over a date night dinner can be a great way to reconnect. It is easy to let the hum-drum of everyday life overtake your early dreams and desires for your partnership and life. But equally some of the questions could be used in a fledging relationship to get to know each other better on a deeper level.
Start with some fun questions
If you could have any superpower – what would it be and why? This might shine a light on the things they find hard, people often pick powers that would help them overcome something they find difficult.
Is there another historical period that you would have liked to live in? This can reveal problems with everyday lives, for example technology overload, someone might choose a period where work was more outdoors, or when life was simpler). (more…)
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No Religion Needed
You do not need to be particularly religious or spiritual to benefit from this understanding. Mainstream science has verified now what Sages and Holy men have been saying for millennia. Energy is eternal, we are energy, and our focussed intention on something changes the way that it reacts. When we choose to focus on positive outcomes and don’t spend unnecessary time in worry, we tend to have a better experience. This is not to suggest that we ignore what is going on. It just means that we have much more power over the way we feel than anyone else when we first connect to our divine core. And the way we feel alters the way that things turn out. There are so many people that are focussing on positive intention and unconditional love right now that it is uplifting everyone that makes the conscious choice to join in. (more…)
Many of us will look at the New Year as a way to make changes, and in some cases that even means taking a long hard look at your relationship! In relationships it is easy to get to a place where you think you know what your partner is thinking or feeling, so much so that we forget to ask and just make assumptions. Of course this can lead us to feel neglected, taken for granted or just misunderstood.
In the New Year why not make a point of having more productive conversations, the ‘conversation map’ outlines an approach that is based on ‘mindfulness techniques’. Rather than falling back into familiar patterns – one of you shouts, one of you goes on the defensive…, this approach allows you to talk in an open way whilst being truthful, without the situation becoming tense and quarrelsome.
Let you partner feel how they feel. Even if you think it is irrational – don’t go out of your way to prove to them that it is. Accept their feelings and ask questions so that you can better understand their position. (more…)
When thinking about crystals, I will often think about rose quartz if the subject is love. But the majority of mythological explanations for amber’s very existence involve love stories…Magical Romany traditions in particular value amber as a love-drawing charm.
Just for fun, why not try this amber charm spell:
Romany Dreams of Desire
- Wait until a Thursday night – then make a list of the most prized qualities you would want in a romantic partner. If you already have in mind a person that you want to be yours – then visualise them and say their name out loud. Before you sleep that night, place a piece of amber under your pillow or close to you in bed. Get a small piece of silk ready for Friday morning.
Choosing to break up with someone is never going to be easy, but sometimes it is the right thing to do. You probably know in your heart that your relationship is no longer working, but we are creatures of habit and often it is easier to just keep plodding along and hope for the best. The problem with this approach is that whilst you are settling for second best, the chance at a new relationship – one that is fulfilling and gets you your heart’s desire is passing you by.
Rather than coasting along, why not take a good hard look at your relationship and decide if you can move back towards each other once more, or whether it’s time to be brave and start anew! (more…)