If a woman wanted to know who her future spouse would be, there were a number of rituals she could carry out:
- On St. Valentine’s Eve she could visit a graveyard at midnight, chanting special charms she knew whilst running around the church twelve times! She should then go to sleep with a sprig of rosemary under her pillow, and the face of her husband-to-be would appear…
- On Valentine’s Day itself a woman should let her eyes gaze to the sky, until she saw a bird or animal flying over, the type of bird would indicate certain things about the union:
Many of us will look at the New Year as a way to make changes, and in some cases that even means taking a long hard look at your relationship! In relationships it is easy to get to a place where you think you know what your partner is thinking or feeling, so much so that we forget to ask and just make assumptions. Of course this can lead us to feel neglected, taken for granted or just misunderstood.
In the New Year why not make a point of having more productive conversations, the ‘conversation map’ outlines an approach that is based on ‘mindfulness techniques’. Rather than falling back into familiar patterns – one of you shouts, one of you goes on the defensive…, this approach allows you to talk in an open way whilst being truthful, without the situation becoming tense and quarrelsome.
Let you partner feel how they feel. Even if you think it is irrational – don’t go out of your way to prove to them that it is. Accept their feelings and ask questions so that you can better understand their position. (more…)
When thinking about crystals, I will often think about rose quartz if the subject is love. But the majority of mythological explanations for amber’s very existence involve love stories…Magical Romany traditions in particular value amber as a love-drawing charm.
Just for fun, why not try this amber charm spell:
Romany Dreams of Desire
- Wait until a Thursday night – then make a list of the most prized qualities you would want in a romantic partner. If you already have in mind a person that you want to be yours – then visualise them and say their name out loud. Before you sleep that night, place a piece of amber under your pillow or close to you in bed. Get a small piece of silk ready for Friday morning.
Choosing to break up with someone is never going to be easy, but sometimes it is the right thing to do. You probably know in your heart that your relationship is no longer working, but we are creatures of habit and often it is easier to just keep plodding along and hope for the best. The problem with this approach is that whilst you are settling for second best, the chance at a new relationship – one that is fulfilling and gets you your heart’s desire is passing you by.
Rather than coasting along, why not take a good hard look at your relationship and decide if you can move back towards each other once more, or whether it’s time to be brave and start anew! (more…)
As Valentines approaches it is inevitable that we will think of love and perhaps take stock of our romantic relationships…
But what if one of you has thought, or even verbalised the dreaded sentence – “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” Does it have to mean the end of the relationship? Andrew G Marshall (one of the UK’s leading and best-known marital therapists), doesn’t think so. He explores this question and more in his 10th anniversary book ‘I Love You but I’m Not in Love with You: Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship’. (more…)
Life can be funny sometimes, we guard against a lot of things – going to the Doctors when we are sick, taking out house insurance (just in case), servicing our cars, but often when it comes to our relationships we just expect them to tick along nicely without any outside help or input.
January is the perfect time to take stock of your relationship, to make sure you are both heading in the same direction and to guard against taking each other for granted: (more…)
It is sad to say goodbye to summer, but every season has its delights and the beautiful autumnal scenery that the autumn season has to offer is the perfect backdrop to falling in love.
Kids get back to school, we reluctantly put away our summer clothes and normal routines resume. So, why not take stock of the stirring season to assess your love life…
Is now is the time to find your perfect mate?
Not something that you might think about immediately, but the colours of autumn – golds, reds and orange fill our gardens, hedgerows and countryside and make us want to embrace the outdoors, the air is thinner and it is easy to breath – creating a relaxing atmosphere away from busy working lives and responsibilities. From a science perspective cooler weather signifies to our bodies that it is time to settle down, to nest and get ready for winter. (more…)
I think it is fair to say that you have to have a fair bit of faith when reading most self-help books. The knowledge imparted in the book may not be based on science – or the physical, things that you can know for sure, can touch, see, sense…Much like psychic readings, you have to have faith in the process, you believe in what you cannot see or rationally explain.
But the book ‘I Heart Me’ by Dr David Hamilton is slightly different, and I think offers a great self-help style book for those more sceptical among us. David’s PhD may not be in the area you are imagining, he actually got a degree in chemistry, specialising in biological and medicinal chemistry. For a while after qualifying he developed drugs for cancer and cardiovascular disease. His first foray in to writing as you might expect was in the field of chemistry, but now he is a bestselling author, having published seven books with Hay House that fuse the mind, spiritual wisdom and science (more…)
Whether you are single or attached, if you are at a loose end on Valentines, or are looking for an alternative to the normal dinner date, then perhaps you will be pleased to know that the Fifty Shades of Grey movie is released on the 13th February, just in time for Valentines.
The movie is of course an adaptation of the book: Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James, it is fair to say that the books in the trilogy/the author have taken some flak, in part due to the writing quality, but to be fair James started writing fan fiction based around the Twilight story.
The books have been called many things – mummy porn, dark romance, erotica for women to name a few. But whether you read the books or not, or wherever you land on your thoughts on the genre it is hard to argue with the figures. Since its release the trilogy has been translated in to 51 languages, and in print and via e-book more than 100 million copies have been sold, making it one of the biggest and fastest selling book series in history. (more…)
Determined, intelligent, and practical, those with the Life Path 4 can count themselves as ‘The Builder.’
If Your Birthday Adds to a 4, for example: January 29th, 1954
1, 29, 1954
In this case, you would have the Life Path number of: 4
(If you are unsure on how to calculate your Life Path number, refer to our previous post ‘introduction to numerology’). (more…)