When you have been with your partner for a long time a fun relationship quiz over a date night dinner can be a great way to reconnect. It is easy to let the hum-drum of everyday life overtake your early dreams and desires for your partnership and life. But equally some of the questions could be used in a fledging relationship to get to know each other better on a deeper level.
Start with some fun questions
If you could have any superpower – what would it be and why? This might shine a light on the things they find hard, people often pick powers that would help them overcome something they find difficult.
Is there another historical period that you would have liked to live in? This can reveal problems with everyday lives, for example technology overload, someone might choose a period where work was more outdoors, or when life was simpler). (more…)
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No Religion Needed
You do not need to be particularly religious or spiritual to benefit from this understanding. Mainstream science has verified now what Sages and Holy men have been saying for millennia. Energy is eternal, we are energy, and our focussed intention on something changes the way that it reacts. When we choose to focus on positive outcomes and don’t spend unnecessary time in worry, we tend to have a better experience. This is not to suggest that we ignore what is going on. It just means that we have much more power over the way we feel than anyone else when we first connect to our divine core. And the way we feel alters the way that things turn out. There are so many people that are focussing on positive intention and unconditional love right now that it is uplifting everyone that makes the conscious choice to join in. (more…)
If a woman wanted to know who her future spouse would be, there were a number of rituals she could carry out:
- On St. Valentine’s Eve she could visit a graveyard at midnight, chanting special charms she knew whilst running around the church twelve times! She should then go to sleep with a sprig of rosemary under her pillow, and the face of her husband-to-be would appear…
- On Valentine’s Day itself a woman should let her eyes gaze to the sky, until she saw a bird or animal flying over, the type of bird would indicate certain things about the union:
Many of us will look at the New Year as a way to make changes, and in some cases that even means taking a long hard look at your relationship! In relationships it is easy to get to a place where you think you know what your partner is thinking or feeling, so much so that we forget to ask and just make assumptions. Of course this can lead us to feel neglected, taken for granted or just misunderstood.
In the New Year why not make a point of having more productive conversations, the ‘conversation map’ outlines an approach that is based on ‘mindfulness techniques’. Rather than falling back into familiar patterns – one of you shouts, one of you goes on the defensive…, this approach allows you to talk in an open way whilst being truthful, without the situation becoming tense and quarrelsome.
Let you partner feel how they feel. Even if you think it is irrational – don’t go out of your way to prove to them that it is. Accept their feelings and ask questions so that you can better understand their position. (more…)
When thinking about crystals, I will often think about rose quartz if the subject is love. But the majority of mythological explanations for amber’s very existence involve love stories…Magical Romany traditions in particular value amber as a love-drawing charm.
Just for fun, why not try this amber charm spell:
Romany Dreams of Desire
- Wait until a Thursday night – then make a list of the most prized qualities you would want in a romantic partner. If you already have in mind a person that you want to be yours – then visualise them and say their name out loud. Before you sleep that night, place a piece of amber under your pillow or close to you in bed. Get a small piece of silk ready for Friday morning.
Choosing to break up with someone is never going to be easy, but sometimes it is the right thing to do. You probably know in your heart that your relationship is no longer working, but we are creatures of habit and often it is easier to just keep plodding along and hope for the best. The problem with this approach is that whilst you are settling for second best, the chance at a new relationship – one that is fulfilling and gets you your heart’s desire is passing you by.
Rather than coasting along, why not take a good hard look at your relationship and decide if you can move back towards each other once more, or whether it’s time to be brave and start anew! (more…)
As Valentines approaches it is inevitable that we will think of love and perhaps take stock of our romantic relationships…
But what if one of you has thought, or even verbalised the dreaded sentence – “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” Does it have to mean the end of the relationship? Andrew G Marshall (one of the UK’s leading and best-known marital therapists), doesn’t think so. He explores this question and more in his 10th anniversary book ‘I Love You but I’m Not in Love with You: Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship’. (more…)
Life can be funny sometimes, we guard against a lot of things – going to the Doctors when we are sick, taking out house insurance (just in case), servicing our cars, but often when it comes to our relationships we just expect them to tick along nicely without any outside help or input.
January is the perfect time to take stock of your relationship, to make sure you are both heading in the same direction and to guard against taking each other for granted: (more…)
It is sad to say goodbye to summer, but every season has its delights and the beautiful autumnal scenery that the autumn season has to offer is the perfect backdrop to falling in love.
Kids get back to school, we reluctantly put away our summer clothes and normal routines resume. So, why not take stock of the stirring season to assess your love life…
Is now is the time to find your perfect mate?
Not something that you might think about immediately, but the colours of autumn – golds, reds and orange fill our gardens, hedgerows and countryside and make us want to embrace the outdoors, the air is thinner and it is easy to breath – creating a relaxing atmosphere away from busy working lives and responsibilities. From a science perspective cooler weather signifies to our bodies that it is time to settle down, to nest and get ready for winter. (more…)
I think it is fair to say that you have to have a fair bit of faith when reading most self-help books. The knowledge imparted in the book may not be based on science – or the physical, things that you can know for sure, can touch, see, sense…Much like psychic readings, you have to have faith in the process, you believe in what you cannot see or rationally explain.
But the book ‘I Heart Me’ by Dr David Hamilton is slightly different, and I think offers a great self-help style book for those more sceptical among us. David’s PhD may not be in the area you are imagining, he actually got a degree in chemistry, specialising in biological and medicinal chemistry. For a while after qualifying he developed drugs for cancer and cardiovascular disease. His first foray in to writing as you might expect was in the field of chemistry, but now he is a bestselling author, having published seven books with Hay House that fuse the mind, spiritual wisdom and science (more…)